Summary of the Video
The documentary video contextualizes its limelight on the importance of emotional maturity as well as the 5 definitive ways on how to spot an emotionally immature person. It is more realistic to say that physical maturity can easily be spotted in terms of height and stature, in comparison to emotional maturity which is tricky and innate only in the individual concerned. The video emphasizes in exposition that discovering the emotional immaturity of a person will connote surprises as these are relatively evident in adults. A relatively emotionally immature person is vivid if he or she is easily irritated, cannot contain one’s self and bursts out easily on the verge of dealing with working pressures and deadlines, facing love affair related problems and in solving family related problems. The video points out important guidelines and steps on how to spot an emotionally immature person as how to escape from them. These lines are the easiest access in identifying them, as they rampantly use these in conversations that in return, ring the alarm bell of the listener.
The first line is; “I’m not so good at spending time on my own”. This line differentiates the emotionally mature person from the immature one. The emotionally mature person can deal clearly and constructively with his or her own feelings, emotions and thoughts in self-awareness and self-assessment interfolded manner. On the other hand, the emotionally immature person fears to be left on his or her own for the reason that what others perceive about him or her matters a lot. In that state of thinking, the emotionally immature person creates a monster of himself or herself that is led by being consumed with envy, uncertainty and confusion when faced in the mirror of life. To avoid this, the emotionally immature person should be grounded about the importance of self-worth, in order to reach the fullest stage of emotional maturity.
The second line is; “I don’t really remember much about my childhood.” This line is the resort of the emotionally immature person to express that he or she has not experienced any struggles and obstacles that are sometimes embedded in early childhood. The emotionally mature person on the other hand would be proud to say that he or she has a happy childhood thus connoting that he or she enjoyed that stage of life, both in its good and bad aspects. If for instance, a person has the inability to remember such a stage, it would connote that the person is emotionally immature because he or she is unable to share about it which is the effect of having not processed it in deep set thinking and memory to the person concerned.
The third line is; “I’ve never really thought about that before.” The connotation of this line to the emotionally immature person is that he or she has the difficulty to draw from his or her own knowledge in conversations that talk about his or her own set of enthusiasms, projects, histories, and sorrows. So whenever the emotionally immature person is asked about past experiences that resulted in an unsuccessful ending, this line is the definite answer of the emotionally immature person as those experiences were out of the line to his or her own set of expectations. In addition to that, the negative experiences of the emotionally immature person is a huge contrary to the way he or she leads his or her life as a whole which proves that emotional maturity is not yet achieved by that person.
The fourth line is; “Everything is Pretty Good. It’s Fine, All Fine.” This line is commonly used by the emotionally immature person because he or she perceives everything in his or her life to be in good condition, to be in good shape, to be in good state and to be all fine, despite the reality that there are problems, trials, challenges and difficulties that he or she needs to face at present. In comparison, the emotionally mature person is bravely and steadfastly ready to face whatever challenges, trials and problems that are on hand, without the need to scapegoat. That marks the line of demarcation between the two as good and bad experiences are preparedly foreseen by the emotionally mature individual comparatively to the emotionally immature one who is blocked in pretensions.
The fifth line is; “That’s just a load of old psychobabble”. This line is applied by the emotionally immature person, once his or her emotional integrity is affected in a conversation and in return, he or she shuts out the person who expressively shares his or her verdict on the topic discussed. Because of that, the emotionally immature person escapes such conversation and pretends to not be affected with it. In return, the emotionally immature individual blames the emotionally mature person to be suffering from mental distress so that he or she will not be hampered with what was said by blocking literally his or her ears, shuts down an open mind and thinks that the ideas shared are out of the line and scope dealt with.
In conclusion, always give a wide distance in dealing with a company of emotionally immature people so that your time will be more purposefully precious. The distant amount of time that you give them, will be an opportunity for them to realize that they need to grow and they need to improve in achieving an equitable emotional state of mind for the future ahead of them.
A Commentary on the Video
The video is both a precaution and a premonition. It is a precaution because it reminds its viewers that indeed, emotionally immature people exist and thus, it takes a capsulized amount of patience and understanding in dealing with them. On the other hand, it is also a premonition because emotionally mature people are given the opportunity to cite these kinds of people either in the home, in the workplace, or in their group of friends. And on a larger scale, they are prepared to apply these signs while assessing the emotionally immature people concerned. The people watching this video will be in agreement with the fact that achieving emotional maturity will take time to fully bloom within a person wanting to reach it in a full blast.
While in the contrary, the people watching this video will be in disagreement, as they assess the 5 line spots involved because it may vary in their way of living, thus resulting in confusion in the process of understanding the emotionally immature people around them. Some points to consider while watching this video are the causes that develop emotional immaturity and the causes that attain emotional maturity in an individual. In addition to that, the tips as well that will aid in deciphering these two types of people in the society and community that they live in.
Other Related Information on the Article that are in Reference to the Video
Psychology proves that emotionally immature people need their own time and space, in order to attain the full state of emotional maturity, in the years to come in their individual and respective lives. Thus, here are the top 5 guiding tenets on how to attain emotional maturity and its direct opposites that should be avoided, as an additional reference to the video as follows:
- An emotionally mature person should be proactive in dealing with life’s situations. Thus, being too reactive is the direct opposite of emotional maturity.
- An emotionally mature person is governed both by vision and by purpose in facing life. Thus being governed by habit in facing life is the direct opposite of emotional maturity.
- An emotionally mature person is others-centered in terms of being resilient. Thus being self-centered is the direct opposite of emotional maturity.
- An emotionally mature person lives in the present faced life situations. Thus, living in the past and future is the direct opposite of emotional maturity.
- An emotionally mature person aims to promote unity and goodwill with others and in the community and society that he or she lives in. Thus, separation and alienation from other people is the direct opposite of emotional maturity.